Then add to that, getting them all to do their homework, including listening to them all read (No 1 gets listened to once in a blue moon, but I do try!), and an occasional play date. All this doesn’t leave much time for one-to-one activities or time spent individually with our beautiful boys.
A friend with 3 children described recently how they ensure they each do one big day out with a child in a year. For example a Mummy & Daughter trip to London to the Ballet. Or a Daddy and Son trip to London to see a show. I have to admit we rarely do anything like this. Not individually. The only big thing that springs to mind is my OH taking No 1 son to a football match for his birthday one year (thank you to Becky’s OH for helping sort this for us!!) And he did the same with No 2 son (thanks again Mr M!) Not sure what’s going to happen when No 3 and No 4 reach the ‘football match’ birthday age. Twins don’t seem to help with the notion of one to one activities, especially when they are the same sex. I can only begin to imagine the upset and outrage if one of them was told they were being left at home while the other got taken on some exciting adventure. I’m not sure that promises of a similar outing for themselves in any point in the future would calm them down. But I can’t be sure, as I haven’t been brave enough to attempt that conversation yet.
So my first problem is thinking of what particular activities either my husband or I could do with the boys individually. We need ideas that aren’t too expensive, maybe some that are big, fun things, but others that are smaller, easier to arrange activities that don’t take as long.
My other problem is how to find the time to fit this important one to one time with each child when our lives are as crazy as they are.
So please give me some ideas. Big or small. Anything would be helpful.